I get this daily email/newsletter thing from TUT’s Adventure Club (TUT stands for Totally Unique Thoughts)–notes from the universe, which are inspirational, often thought-provoking, and usually pretty darn funny.
The slogan of the newsletter is “Thoughts become things…choose the good ones!”
The whole concept is that thoughts have the power to affect outcomes, so if you spend a lot of time in negativity, you’re likely to get a lot of negativity back in your life. Kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy kind of deal. I’ve definitely seen this happen many times. People who are angry and negative tend to attract more anger and negativity. It’s a matter of finding what you’re looking for or expecting, really.
Of course it’s a lot easier to say you should keep positive thoughts when things are already going well. When you’re in the middle of the blahs, it’s a lot harder to maintain them. I know. I’ve been there. When you’re in the middle of life crap, you’re more apt to look at people staying positive as being phony or somehow naive or something. And yet, I know I found myself gravitating toward the positive people in my life because they cast off this sort of…I don’t know…light that somehow makes things seem better. And that helps ME be more positive.
I think maintaining positive thoughts and surrounding yourself with positive people is absolutely necessary as a writer. There is SO MUCH NEGATIVITY in our field. People bitter about the system. Upset or angry about rejections. Furious about a critique or a review. Depressed about the odds of success. And there’s a certain tendency for us to hang around the metaphorical water cooler and bitch together. It’s a communal thing. But does that really make us feel any better? Does it do anything to move us along our desired path toward success? Or does it just further highlight that we’re all probably nuts for trying in the first place?
So my challenge to you is to FIND THE POSITIVE! Surround yourself with positive people. Look at that rejection you received with an open mind and search out that nugget of helpful information that’s going to make what you’re submitting better. Look at each critique as a chance to IMPROVE YOUR CRAFT. Look outside the scope of the traditional query/traditional publishing process and consider what you could learn from self publishing something–then educate yourself. Look at those astronomical odds and see it as something to truly ASPIRE to–then rise to the occasion.